It came at a time that I needed it most. I was knee deep in comparisons; trying to keep up with the Joneses (and failing miserably) and that’s when I read it. A friend of mine wrote a blog post about her “ministry of mediocrity.” This was years ago and she doesn’t blog anymore but recently I contacted her to ask if I could write about it here. I still think about that post often and I’m so thankful she said yes. It has to do with the “purpose” side of home-keeping, hospitality. And it has nothing to do with a perfectly made bed, fluffed pillows, or a well curated gallery wall.
It has to do with being mediocre.
So what is this ministry of mediocrity, exactly? Well, it could mean inviting friends over to hang out with a sink/counter/table full of dishes and not apologizing for them. It could also mean not shaving your legs or repainting your chipped toe nail polish and still wearing shorts and sandals because its hot outside. Its remembering that we’re all human, nobody’s perfect, and revealing your own imperfections creates a space for true connection. Sound scary? Maybe it is, a little. But its also brave and leads to intimacy and realness- creating a sense of belonging that we all crave.
When we furiously scrub our houses, selves, and lives to gleaming perfection before interacting with anyone, we give this impression that this is how life really is. We appear untouchable and unreachable. Our homes may be even a little uncomfortable.
But what if instead of perfection we purposefully aimed for mediocrity with the intent of ministering to others? What if we aimed for just “good enough” housekeeping? Just “good enough” cooking, party-throwing, hair-fixing, decorating? Whatever it is that eats you up because you’re just not perfect or its just not your thing- let it go. Enough of this super-woman “I-can-do-it-all” lie. When we reveal our imperfections to one another, we actually minister to eachother, saying “you are free to be exactly who you are.”
When someone invites me in from the perspective of a ministry of mediocrity, I feel at ease, I feel comfortable. I know they are more interested in connection and friendship rather than creating a mirage of perfection. I am allowed to be myself and reveal my own imperfections: messy house, unshaven legs, at times ill-behaved children, and all. They have ministered to my soul by just being themselves: which is at times genuinely, perfectly mediocre.
Hi everyone! Happy Thursday! Hope you’re having a great week. Just popping in to say hi and share a bit of life lately! First up, I know the last time I was here I was talking about boy rooms, but oh how easily I get distracted! Now I’m thinking about girl rooms! When we moved in, […]
As my youngest approaches three, I’ve been looking for inspiration for his room and what to do next. We went straight from the crib to a twin bed for my oldest son and a queen bed in my daughter’s case– it was our old bed and is used as the guest bed when we have visitors. […]
Hey there! I’ve been away for a while, but today I’m back with three things, perhaps random, but its what we’ve been up to lately… If you follow me on Instagram, you know I was just on a quick trip with my husband, Paul to the midwest. We were there for my cousin’s wedding, but […]
I realize that I’m a decorator/stylist blogging here, and I haven’t shown you pictures of my house lately. The thing is, it doesn’t change that often. Maybe this is kind of a paradox in the decor blog world, but truthfully, I have some minimist tendencies and once I get a room “right” for me, I like […]
Last Saturday, Paul was working and the kids and I took a long drive to visit family for an Easter celebration. We were winding through country roads, looking out the window for cows and horses, you know, anything to keep the kids entertained. Spotting an old farmhouse nestled in some trees on acres of beautiful land, […]
Thanks so much for your kind words on my last post!!! I could just hug you all! And I feel so free to write more now knowing that I’ve just put it out there! I know I’ve talked about books before, so I guess that makes it the easiest to start there- with what I’ve been […]